• recovery and beading

    Hysterectomy recovery isn’t so easy. It would probably be easier if there was more actual pain to keep me from wanting to be active.

    Yesterday, I took Liam on a tour of Georgia Tech– well, I attended the presentation, Liam went on the tour while I sat at the student center.

    It has long been a goal to get the things that we don’t absolutely want to keep forever cleaned out from storage in various places around our house. So, after we got home yesterday, I had Liam bring up some boxes of toys.

    And, I went through some boxes that Jared had brought up previously.

    And then, all of a sudden I was bleeding more than I really have at all since the surgery.

    So, Jared has put me on bedrest. I was supposed to take Liam to Kennesaw State for his tour there today, but Jared took the day off to take him instead.

    And I know all this will be worth it in the end, I know that there were problems we didn’t even know about that were addressed by the surgery. But right now, it is not feeling very worth it.

    I am not a very good patient, to say the least.

    Treasures were found when we were going through things yesterday, and among them was this cameo pendant. I made a necklace for my best friend to wear when she was maid of honor in our wedding, and it wasn’t her style so I inherited it after the wedding. It has been several iterations of necklaces at this point, and I was pretty sure it was lost forever at this point. I am thrilled to be able to make another necklace with it.

    It’s not the best photo and the necklace may seem like an odd combo of beads and colors to other people but all these beads are sentimental to me: the cameo because of the wedding. There are also some of the crystal beads I wore myself in a different necklace on our wedding day. And some other antique beads that are sentimental, and the glass beads are ones that I made as part of a lamp work bead-making class that Jared gave me in 2010 or so.

    I made another necklace, too, that was kind of fun:

    Other than that, watching a whole bunch of trashy Maury TV has helped me feel slightly better today, as well.

    In addition to my own treasures, we are in the process of going through the lifetime’s worth of toys that the boys have accumulated, mostly stored for several years now. Soooo very proud of Liam, Porter, and Oliver, both for their work yesterday and for Liam and Oliver setting aside about half of their outdoor toys to get rid of today.

    We are getting ready for a garage sale sometime soon, though it may be September or so before we get around to it. It will be cooler by then, too.

  • on my recent hysterectomy

    Two days shy of three weeks ago, I had a complete hysterectomy. They took everything. While medically justified due to family history, they did find problems with both ovaries in surgery that made it apparent they did indeed need to come out. The decision was made initially because I just wanted to prevent problems as I got older, so the timing of the ovarian problems was just a happy coincidence.

    The first three or four days were the worst, though the physical pain hasn’t been too bad overall. Now I struggle with the not doing too much, as I feel called now to do things like purge my house of unnecessary clutter and potentially rearrange furniture.

    I feel like I should be lamenting the loss of my ability to have more children, but the reality is, I have been mourning that loss of ability for the better part of a decade.

    Our youngest son was a surprise pregnancy and I was so traumatized by that pregnancy that I not only got my tubes tied, I insisted on my husband having his own procedure, too. But after the dust had cleared from those procedures, and after I realized that yes, I can be a successful stay at home mom to toddlers, I regretted that sterilization choice.

    So, I have been mourning the loss of my fertility for most of a decade so it doesn’t feel that jarring now that it is permanently impossible to have more children.

    My husband and I have three beautiful, wonderful, brilliant, kind, and funny boys. I treasure each of them.

    In reality, this whole procedure, assuming the rest of recovery goes smoothly, feels like a big gift to myself, not a loss at all. No more periods; immediate menopause so no more years of the back and forth wondering when menopause will come.

    I’ve been walking a little with Jared most days at the Marina, and yesterday I started doing my lying chest fly exercises that I love to help my chest and back– they are part of my physical therapy exercises and it felt so good to ease back into them. And I got clearance to drive last Thursday, so I have my freedom again.

    Here’s to hoping the remainder of my recovery goes smoothly.

  • struggling with my identity and things we’ve done to save money this month

    I’ve been struggling with my identity lately, and I know why.

    In early adulthood, I associated my identity with my profession. It was not a healthy association, I realize, but it’s what happened.

    And then, I qualified for SSDI based on my mental health needs. And so all of a sudden, there was no professional life, and no prospect for one.

    And then, I found photography as a mental health outlet.

    But then, I took on the idea that I should be a professional photographer, that THAT should be my professional life and identity.

    And for the better part of eight years on and off, I have somewhat pigeonholed myself into a part-time version of just that: professional photographer.

    Except, now it’s time to do away with the photography business.

    I have considered selling some of my gear and downgrading to less bulky and expensive gear in the aftermath, both to pay down some debt but also to sort of step away from the role of professional, in gear as well as identity.

    But the reality is: I will always be a photographer, whether I make any money from the endeavor, or not. It’s part of who I am at this point.

    And, I absolutely adore my cameras. They are big, but they are big because they are medium format and as far as medium format goes, they are not that big.

    And I love the bokeh, and all my lenses– both brand and adapted.

    Jared and I have taken a number of steps in the past month to be much more fiscally responsible. Closing down the photography business will help with that, as well. The best thing I can do is not acquire more gear, and continue enjoying and using the equipment I have. Offloading even a portion wouldn’t help in the ways I wish, as trading out gear is always a losing proposition – I definitely know that by now.

    It’s hard to quantify and medical and pet expenses made it such that last month we still spent more than planned. But in the last month we have eliminated YouTube TV, Netflix, eight other entertainment type memberships, we spent $501.59 less in groceries between April and May, we spent $52.12 less in eating out. I made the decision this weekend to migrate the hosting of this website to another much cheaper service and that saved us another $100 a year.

    We’ve made pretty immediate progress on getting our spending in order and that is much needed and promising. Our spending has long been out of control and the photography business contributed greatly to that end, unfortunately. It is no exaggeration to say that we incurred significant costs to support my business expenses, unfortunately.

    It is rather astounding though: I have been shooting with my GFX 50sIIs (well, one of them anyway) for 3.5 years. That’s longer than I have stuck with any single camera ever, since the original Sony Alpha NEX 5N. So there is some progress there, at least.

    This identity struggle though: it is rough. I struggle to embrace the role of housewife and mother. I’ve raised a grown son and have another teen and a tween too, and the role of mother has never really felt completely natural, truth be told.

    And I do know why it is: I idolized my grandmother and my aunt and my mother, and they all worked their whole lives.

    It does not feel natural that I should not do the same. Even though Jared tells me it is fine that I do not, and that my value to him and to our family is in no way tied to my income.

    So anyway, that’s the core of one of my major life’s struggles. I do not know if I would struggle in the same way if money were easier for us or not. I like to think that if we didn’t struggle with money, I would worry less about working. But somehow, I suspect that isn’t as relevant an issue as I often believe.

    But, at least for today, I’ve settled the issue of whether I should keep the gear, and whether or not at my core I am still a photog.

    Also, as an aside: Jared had the idea (that has given him much laughter over the last several days) at the Marina a few days ago that we should make a Duck Butt Blog. It came about when I was bemoaning the fact that the ducks were all putting their heads underwater to fish the other night, making them less picturesque. So I took photos of them with their heads underwater.

    So, I came home, and not an hour and a half later, https://duckbutt.blog came into being. It’s a thing and will be an ongoing project. It makes Jared exceedingly happy to have this project even though I am the one who is doing the work, and apparently there is an audience for such, judging by the reaction on WordPress.

    Anyway, that’s what’s happening in these parts.

  • april 2, 2025: our 20th anniversary!

    Us at Lovely Lane Chapel at Epworth-By-The-Sea on April 2, 2025

    This Spring was hard. As such, I was quiet about writing about some of the best parts of this Spring. It’s been mostly about survival mode in these parts.

    I realized earlier that life got in the way and I never posted about our 20th anniversary trip to St. Simons!

    On April 2, Jared and I celebrated our 20th anniversary. We decided to commemorate the occasion by staying 2 nights at The Queen’s Court, at St. Simons. We got married at Lovely Lane Chapel at Epworth-By-The-Sea on April 2, 2005.

    Jared’s lone request for the trip for himself was the selfie of us, above. It’s a re-creation of a photo from our wedding day. I set up the tripod, got Jared in place, set the self-timer, and ran down to get in the shot and we snagged this shot in one try. As I packed up the tripod, the Epworth bells were tolling noon.

    My caption for the photo above on Facebook was, “I am home.” It truly felt that way.

    20 years later, the wedding dress fit! Tried it on the weekend before our anniversary.

    And yes, at home before we went on our trip, I did get out the dress because I wasn’t sure but I’d had a several years-long dream of fitting into my wedding dress on our 20th anniversary. And the zipper is actually broken on the dress such that it will no longer zip up all the way, but yes, it did fit. Jared snapped the photo above the Saturday before our anniversary.

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    Jared wanted the Lovely Lane re-creation photo, but this is the photo I wanted: us close to the St. Simons Village. The beach is no longer accessible from the Village so we walked down beyond the Methodist Church for the beach access for this shot.

    That part of the St. Simons trip made me sad. I’ve known since I was a child that the south end of the island is washing to the north end of Jekyll, and climate change has surely accelerated that process. But it occurred to me on this trip that it might happen during my lifetime that the St. Simons Island Village is no longer the tourist spot that it’s been my whole lifetime. And that makes me sad, since I grew up going there literally every 4th of July of my childhood.

    by Bailey Martin

    This was us sitting on the far side of the pier the night of April 1, shortly after we checked into the Queen’s Court….this sweet girl named Bailey came up to us after we got up and told us she’d taken this shot and got my email and sent it to me the next day. It was indeed a very beautiful evening, and that whole side of the pier was empty at the time. A magical memory.

    I snapped this selfie of us after the more posed shot with my tripod, before we left the beach close to the Village the morning of our anniversary.

    The evening of our anniversary, we rode over to Jekyll. It was the very first time I ever remember ever going to Driftwood Beach and it was a gorgeous evening.

    It was a relatively quick 2-day trip; we arrived the evening of April 1 and walked down to the pier and had dinner at Brogen’s, where we’d hung out with friends after our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner on April 1, 2005, and then after photos on the morning of April 2, we drove around the island a little bit. Discovered there is the cutest little Goodwill boutique on the island now and I scored a very cute (if impractical) vintage purse that just needed a little bit of love to get it back into working order.

    We ate an early dinner at Barbara Jean’s in the Village on the 2nd and after our nap (because we are indeed old people now) went over to Jekyll. After Driftwood Beach we had a quick ice cream at the Jekyll DQ before headed back to SSI.

    By the morning of the 3rd, I was ready to get back to our boys so we hit the road pretty early.

    It was a very nice, if accidental, touch that the Queen’s Court had put us in their Room 20 for our 20th anniversary.

    (An Aside: I love that when they remodeled several years ago that the Queen’s Court kept the light-up sign from forever ago, and I love the new wall that surrounds the pool. I learned how to swim in that very pool when I was 7 years old. And, I loved that in the office they were selling $4 keychains in the exact same shape as the old keychains they used to use for the room keys back when we stayed there when I was a child…..of course I had to have one. It’s blue whereas the ones they used when I was a kid matched the green in the sign in the photo above, but it has to be sourced from the same place because it’s the exact same shape otherwise.)


    I took my camera but the trip was not a big photo expedition. This was the lone scenic type photo I shot, on the evening of April 1 before dinner, probably before Bailey took that photo of us above. It’s startling to me how high the rocks have been piled now, and how there is no beach access from this area now at all. I very much wanted this shot to remember this evening, this exact way the island was at that moment in time, for the future.

    This was a beautiful getaway to celebrate 20 years with my Jared. On that sunny morning in April of 2005, I really had no idea what lay ahead of us. I am humbled and grateful that we have this beautiful life together, with our three beautiful children.

    You can read more about why I write about my wonderful life here.